Years ago I was told a simple truth that changed everything: the best way to understand people is through stories. Here is a video that eloquently expresses that profoundly insightful premise.
Whenever you encounter a person, you encounter all of who they are and have ever experienced.
Every conversation they’ve ever had.
Every emotion they’ve ever felt.
Every memory they hold in their heart.
Every conflict they’ve ever engaged in.
Every hope they’ve ever dreamed.
Every disappointment they’ve ever endured.
Every belief they’ve ever claimed.
Every relationship they’ve ever known.
Every limitation they’ve ever struggled with.
Every adversity that’s ever come their way.
Every grace that, amazingly, has saved them.
It’s all there. All of that and more. Inside the body you can see is the soul you can't see, except as that soul inhabits, reveals, and expresses itself through the body.
There’s a person in there. All of the person. A person with a story.
What if you made it your purpose to see that person? To see them without judgment. To see a person who’s encountered whatever they’ve encountered.
To do that, you only need to make it safe for the person to tell their story. Once you know that story, you say, ”Of course. It all makes perfect sense. Now I understand.”
Every person has a story. And every story longs to be shared.
Question: Tell us about an experience you’ve had of “seeing” a person.
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